I’m lucky to have a truly wonderful man in my life right now, but my happiness can be hard to take for a friend of mine who is not in quite the same place.  When she admitted her slight feelings of jealousy and frustration to another friend, he suggested that when she was ready for [...]

Today marks the launch of my new book “Looking Up: Surviving Life with an Alcoholic”.  The book chronicles about four years of my life before, during and immediately after my ex-husband’s succumbing to alcoholism.  While there is no doubt in my mind that these years marked some of the toughest of my life to date, with [...]

My mother was a genius at getting me to do things around the house.  She’d simply say “but you’re so good at cleaning the kitchen; really, no one can clean it like you can!” and sure enough, she would be right.  I was also told that I never finished projects, and that I was so [...]

Sometimes, recovery is like walking through a grocery store when you’re hungry.   You might become so overwhelmed by the choices, when you are so filled with need, that making any kind of decision is overwhelming. So you could buy everything, or nothing.   How do we make decisions when we don’t feel our best?  We tend [...]

In your own recovery, it is vitally important that you work on redeveloping trust in yourself.  That trust is synonymous with self-respect, self-confidence, and your sense of self generally.  It is the foundation on which your spiritual being can begin to heal, and your mind and body will follow.   Until you trust yourself, it will [...]