It seems appropriate that on the last day of the year, I write a blog that incorporates New Year’s resolutions with a healthier use of one of our Isms. (And as my own New Year’s resolution I’ve decided to henceforth refer to supporters of alcoholics as SOA’s, to make writing this blog a little simpler.) [...]

Intimacy is important to our well-being.  I’m not just talking about sexual intimacy…although that can be an important type of intimacy.  I’m talking about the freedom to share what is in your heart and mind with another person.  Intimacy includes the vulnerability of honest conversation; the physical accessibility of two people able and willing to [...]

Several months ago I bought two tickets to a rock concert as a treat for myself.  The tickets arrived, I put them in my “important stuff” drawer and promptly forgot about them.  The other day I realized that the concert had already happened, and that I had spent $170 on two empty seats. As a single mom [...]

Sometimes, recovery is like walking through a grocery store when you’re hungry.   You might become so overwhelmed by the choices, when you are so filled with need, that making any kind of decision is overwhelming. So you could buy everything, or nothing.   How do we make decisions when we don’t feel our best?  We tend [...]

Once you’ve learned to start trusting yourself again, you can slowly start to build your trust in others (and maybe even the alcoholic) as well.  We’re not talking about trusting them with your car, or your child at this point; this is just the baby steps of trusting them in a social setting, or at [...]

Alcoholism robs us of our sense of trust.  To truly heal, we have to learn how to get it back again. Trust is one the strongest characteristics of a human being.  When we are born, our very survival depends on trust in others for food, warmth and comfort.   As we grow, we slowly learn to [...]