When you’re in the thick of a dysfunctional relationship with an alcoholic, it’s hard to imagine life will ever be “normal” again. Then as you go through the healing process and life does become more manageable, it can be difficult to stop stressing and micro-managing every aspect of our lives and the lives of those [...]

My mother was a genius at getting me to do things around the house.  She’d simply say “but you’re so good at cleaning the kitchen; really, no one can clean it like you can!” and sure enough, she would be right.  I was also told that I never finished projects, and that I was so [...]

A man I was dating a while back was constantly telling me I no longer needed my support program.  After we broke up, I realized that there had been many signs that he was probably an (undiagnosed?) alcoholic.  When the rough years of my marriage began, my ex-husband tried to dissuade me from taking classes [...]

Several months ago I bought two tickets to a rock concert as a treat for myself.  The tickets arrived, I put them in my “important stuff” drawer and promptly forgot about them.  The other day I realized that the concert had already happened, and that I had spent $170 on two empty seats. As a single mom [...]

The road to recover is actually very similar for alcoholics and alcoholic supporters alike.   Both journeys are tough, and they each begin by admitting we have a problem, and that we are incapable of solving it on our own.  The next logical step is to determine who or what can help us.  If we could [...]