When you are first recovering from life with an alcoholic, romance couldn’t be further from your mind. All I wanted was a nice, boring life without chaos and fear. Serenity would be great. Happiness on top of that would be icing – almost too much to hope for. But as recovery sets in and healing [...]

I’ve often said in this blog that when the Universe really wants you to learn a lesson, it will provide you with ample opportunity to learn. Sometimes, infuriatingly ample opportunity. The Universe wishes me to learn two lessons at present, and I’m getting lots of chance for practice. Once again, I find myself at work [...]

A man I was dating a while back was constantly telling me I no longer needed my support program.  After we broke up, I realized that there had been many signs that he was probably an (undiagnosed?) alcoholic.  When the rough years of my marriage began, my ex-husband tried to dissuade me from taking classes [...]

Many of us, me included, like to start the New Year with a list of  things we would like to accomplish in the coming twelve months.  Over the years, I’ve realized that it is equally important my list also includes desired changes in behaviour and attitude.  It’s not always about adding to your life; sometimes [...]

Have you ever played the game “Traffic”?  It starts with a configuration of various sized cars within a small grid, blocking the exit to one small special car.  The object of the game is to move the cars around until you can get the special car out of the parking lot.  It’s not easy, and [...]

 “Mirror moments” are those times when the alcoholic in your life says something to you which they really mean for themselves.  Ideally, they’d hold a mirror and say those things to the right person, but don’t have the courage or honesty to go there yet.    Realizing they are mirror moments in the first step [...]