The concept of loving detachment can be a life-saver for the supporter of an alcoholic, but great reward usually requires great work. Embracing loving detachment means embracing some foundational changes in your own actions and beliefs. The first of this three-post series on loving detachment focussed on the overall concept of loving the addict while [...]

Within the concept of loving detachment, there are two types of detachment to practice: physical and emotional. This blog deals with physical detachment and the next one will deal with emotional detachment. Both are critical to your health and sanity. As I mentioned in my last bog, loving detachment doesn’t require that you physically leave [...]

Last night I held a book launch party for a friend of a friend who has written a book about love addiction. Attendees represented a diversity of professions and personal situations. Some were there for the intrigue, some to support a friend, and some possibly for guidance. I met new people and old acquaintances. I [...]

My fourteen year old son sometimes reminds me more of a five year old.  Despite being at an age where normally, teenage children are stretching boundaries in order to gain independence, he’s becoming even more dependent on me.  In the short term, this isn’t a bad thing, and it’s quite understandable in the circumstances.  He [...]

There is considerable opinion within both the medical and alcoholic treatment communities that alcoholism may be genetically inherited.  I’m not sure if I believe that, but I am open enough to the possibility, I know that I want to teach my children how to avoid behaviours that might lead to or encourage alcoholism.  And whether or not [...]

Sometimes, recovery is like walking through a grocery store when you’re hungry.   You might become so overwhelmed by the choices, when you are so filled with need, that making any kind of decision is overwhelming. So you could buy everything, or nothing.   How do we make decisions when we don’t feel our best?  We tend [...]

While you might not recognize its name, most of us are familiar with the image of a Mobius strip. It’s a circle made of a single ribbon that at some point, twists back on itself – sometimes forming a small loop – before continuing on to complete the circle.  At a quick glance, it can [...]