Within the concept of loving detachment, there are two types of detachment to practice: physical and emotional. This blog deals with physical detachment and the next one will deal with emotional detachment. Both are critical to your health and sanity. As I mentioned in my last bog, loving detachment doesn’t require that you physically leave [...]

Last night I held a book launch party for a friend of a friend who has written a book about love addiction. Attendees represented a diversity of professions and personal situations. Some were there for the intrigue, some to support a friend, and some possibly for guidance. I met new people and old acquaintances. I [...]

When I see isms in others around me, I can generally observe with detachment and compassion, creating an emotional space between their behaviours and my own involvement. But when those isms show up in people who are close to me, it’s so much harder to remain purely an observer. This started with the person who [...]

I haven’t posted in a while but that doesn’t mean I haven’t been experiencing life’s isms. Actually, they’ve been hitting me with full force over the past few months. Most of these instances have been related to my boyfriend and kids – understandable given the intensity of those relationships. More surprising, however, has been the [...]

There is considerable opinion within both the medical and alcoholic treatment communities that alcoholism may be genetically inherited.  I’m not sure if I believe that, but I am open enough to the possibility, I know that I want to teach my children how to avoid behaviours that might lead to or encourage alcoholism.  And whether or not [...]

A man I was dating a while back was constantly telling me I no longer needed my support program.  After we broke up, I realized that there had been many signs that he was probably an (undiagnosed?) alcoholic.  When the rough years of my marriage began, my ex-husband tried to dissuade me from taking classes [...]

“Stop whistling those dirty songs” said my English teacher in college, as a way of demonstrating to the class how powerful suggestion can be.  Now, of course a tune can’t really be dirty, but if the listener recognizes the tune and remembers the lyrics that go with it, they can certainly choose to be insulted.  [...]

One can imagine that life with an alcoholic can be different for children, dependent upon their age.  But regardless of how old the kids are, all human beings know when they are loved, or neglected in some way.  My children were between the ages of six and thirteen during the worst times of living with [...]