It can creep up on you slowly because sometimes, knowledge is a process rather than an event. When we are in school and learning a program or skills, one moment we didn’t have it and the next, we’ve read or tried it and suddenly it’s become part of our knowledge base. But not all things [...]

When you are first recovering from life with an alcoholic, romance couldn’t be further from your mind. All I wanted was a nice, boring life without chaos and fear. Serenity would be great. Happiness on top of that would be icing – almost too much to hope for. But as recovery sets in and healing [...]

My support group has an expression: “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.” As I get further into my own recovery, I recall with some shame the degree to which I held on, in the past, to relationships where I clearly was not celebrated and in fact, felt barely tolerated. This included my relationship [...]

They say that infrants grow at the same rate as the strength of our arm muscles, enabling us to carry them as they age, but only to a point. There reaches a time when the size and weight of our child force us to let them go, so they can walk and run and begin [...]

Living with an alcoholic, I learned that things could change in an instant.  One moment life can be normal and in the next, I could discover that my husband was in jail, thousands of miles away.  Or I could be having a perfectly normal day gardening only to suddenly learn that he’d had a car [...]

Today marks the launch of my new book “Looking Up: Surviving Life with an Alcoholic”.  The book chronicles about four years of my life before, during and immediately after my ex-husband’s succumbing to alcoholism.  While there is no doubt in my mind that these years marked some of the toughest of my life to date, with [...]

Everything happens for a reason, even the bad stuff.  Especially the bad stuff.  I used to believe that life was pretty random, and perhaps in those days, it was for me.  But now that I’ve decided to live my life awake and purposefully, I see that the people and events that come into my life [...]